Henry O. Studley (1838-1925) was an organ and piano maker, carpenter, and mason.… Born in 1838 in Lowell, Massachusetts, Studley is best known for creating the so called Studley Tool Chest, a wall hanging tool chest which cunningly holds some 300 tools… H/T Laurence Durand
I guess we wimmins have deer skeletons instead of a uterus. That’d explain a lot.
My Dad isn’t a bad person, he’s just… old fashioned.
Concerned about the challenges faced in funding King County Metro, data visualization expert James Davenport has turned to a form he knows best to express the importance of the bus and trolley transit system in the city. His 24 Hours of King County Metro visualization is below. See also our new series, Bus Stop. (via Video shows 24 Hours of King County Metro — ‘every bus through every stop, for one entire weekday’ | CHS Capitol Hill Seattle)
The mythology Jonathan Vilma endorses will not fade through vague endorsements of “tolerance,” lectures on “acceptance,” nor any other species of heartfelt magic. The question which we so often have been offered—is the NFL ready for a gay player?—is backwards. Powerful interests are rarely “ready” for change, so much as they are assaulted by it. We refer to barriers being “broken” for a reason. The reason is not because great powers generally like to unbar the gates and hold a picnic in the honor of the previously excluded. The NFL has no moral right to be “ready” for a gay player, which is to say it has no right to discriminate against gay men at its leisure which anyone is bound to respect.
Dear internet, this is how you gently and thoughtfully change people’s minds. No shaming, no yelling, just a nice nudge to, “Aha!”
I will aspire to use classy same tone next time I try to educate someone about something!
in before someone screams “TONE POLICING” at you
I totally agree with Felicia that the tactful, gentle approach can be much more effective. It’s not that a more emotional response is wrong or undeserved. Sometimes, often even, anger is completely justified and understandable. If someone is acting a way that is biased, ignorant, or oppressive, you do NOT owe them anything. You are under no obligation to swallow your pain in order to help them to understand. But if you do choose to help them understand, the gentle approach is sometimes the most effective method to get past an initial defensive reaction to criticism.
As to Wil… I think he honestly want to be a good person. He has that whole “Don’t be a dick” mantra. But I think he has mistaken politeness for being a good person. Tone policing is a combination gaslighting and political incorrectness (which is just another way of trying to be a bigot and get away with it). It attempts to justify bigotry by claiming that the minority being oppressed is too hysterical about their oppression to deserve any compassion. I think Wil has mainly adopted the term not because he favors bigotry or oppression but because it is a defensive reaction to criticism. Someone called him out on being a dick, for criticizing a victim’s tone, and now he’s feeling defensive because he doesn’t want to be a bad person. So he mocks the term “tone policing” in order to paint himself as the victim so that he won’t have to take the criticism seriously. It’s a common reaction which, sadly, is why that whole tactful, gentle approach can be more effective. It gets past the subject’s inherent dickishness. But always remember: if you’re having to use a gentle tone, it’s not because of anything you did; it’s because the person you’re talking too is too insecure and defensive to take full responsibility for their actions without having the information spoon-fed to them.
People will kill you over time, and how they’ll kill you is with tiny, harmless phrases, like “be realistic”.
- Dylan Moran (via concinnities)
You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.
- Eliezer Yudkowsky (via abundance-mine)
"Arguing that some people misuse trigger warnings is not an argument against good faith trigger warnings. No matter what they’re called, it’s a simple heads up that is actually very easy to do." - Comment on the piece by aphra_behn
- Shakesville: Triggered (Part 2.)
Updated, and adding this point: “I don’t understand this “you can’t predict every single trigger ever” argument against the use of TWs/CNs. Because you might fail someone, you just resolve to definitely fail everyone? Okay.”
And two tweets from Jamie Kilstein:
“Glad brave writers are finally taking on trigger warnings. It’s about time someone stood up to the powerful “people who get triggered” lobby.”
“It’s two fucking words. Trigger. Warning. How lazy are you assholes? That’s all they want. Two fucking words so they don’t relive trauma.”
And I want to add that TWs can be tools for conversation. It can give people enough time to prepare for the topic, so they maybe DON’T go to extremes and double down and disregard what’s being discussed.
After seeing some people I feel are smarter bandwagon the idea (Sorry fellas, you aren’t thought leaders on this) that TWs are a bad thing, I felt that was an important point to make - especially given their usual objections to divisive extreeeeeemes people go to instead of finding a middle ground. If you want your needs to be considered, you have to make it a two way street. Don’t void a tool because it’s new to you or makes you uncomfortable - stop and LEARN.
Sure, describe people being upset that they have to deal with constant political and social oppression as being “butthurt”. Way to compassion, guys.